We see it time and again. Whether you have been blindsided by a leadership decision or experienced a slow “death spiral” in a ministry role, the spiritual and emotional toll of a forced exit is great. Trauma is not too drastic of a word to use to describe what ministers and their families encounter when … Continue reading Uncovering the Trauma of Forced Ministry Exits
WE ARE GROWING! PIR(Pastor-in-Residence) Ministries welcomes new staff One of the significant prayer requests that has been running in the background of our ministry for some time has been that God would bring new staff our way. He has answered in abundance. Since January, we have welcomed on board two new Regional Directors – … Continue reading News Release from PIR Ministries
“We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be.” - C.S. Lewis It’s been a long week since my last posting. (I think I have to give up on putting myself in a “time” box.) Before we take a … Continue reading Another Reason Pastors don’t ask for help – Fear!
Last week I reposted an article by Ken Sande regarding his first hand experience with a pastor friend who burned out. This week, we hear the story of how easy it is for the spouse of a pastor to get caught in the whirlwind of ministry life and end up toasted as well. I want … Continue reading Burnout isn’t Just a Pastor Thing…
In light of my current series on "5 Reasons Pastors Don't Ask for Help...and what can happen if you do!" these observations by Ken Sande, founder of Peacmakers and RW 360, are quite appropriate. Do You Know a Bruised Reed? It takes a great deal of humility, wisdom and courage for a popular pastor to … Continue reading A Good Word on Pastoral Health from Ken Sande
In my last blog, I began to explore what I think are the top five reasons pastors (and probably quite a few of the rest of us) don’t ask for help. I know that in my own life, I am constantly amazed at how often these tendencies crop up. The daily challenge is to lean … Continue reading I Can Manage on My Own… Part 2 of “5 Reasons Pastors Don’t Ask for Help – and what can happen if you do!”
I hate asking for help. I think most people find it difficult, especially when it comes to the kinds of challenges that are more personal or relational. A number of years ago, a famous rock and roll star wrote a song during a time in his life that he self-described as his “fat … Continue reading 5 Reasons Pastors Don’t Ask for Help…(and what can happen when you do!)
I am grateful for the insights that my friend Ray Carroll shares regarding any "timetable" we might attach to restoration for those that have experienced a moral failure. It is a marathon, not a sprint. You can read his cautionary words of advice here: http://fallenpastor.com/long-fallen-pastor-restoration-take/ Update 3/23/16 While the spirit of grace and hope runs deep … Continue reading Restoration…not a sprint, but a marathon!
I just finished reading this extremely thought provoking book by Dr. John Koessler, and I highly recommend it for everyone – but especially for the exited pastors among us. The title was what first drew me to purchase the book. It was a mind grabber. However, Dr. Koessler’s ability to be both pastor and theologian … Continue reading The Surprising Grace of Disappointment – Book Review
"Today, I can write about helping pastors, or I can actually help them." This was the statement I made to my wife sitting out on our patio the other morning. As we talked over coffee, I was facing choices about my agenda for the day. There were a couple of situations that had come up … Continue reading A Loose Grip